I unfortunately see things go wrong more than I see it going right. When my mind has already made up a plan and it doesn’t go that way, it’s basically the end of the world. It can be as simple as not having enough time to do everything that I planned for the day or having a flat tire and completely missing out on an event — either way, it ruins my whole day. I admire the “go with the flow” kind of people because I feel that they seem to handle stress well. When things don’t go as planned, I think about what a more relaxed/ “go with the flow” type of person would do.
I am surrounded with mostly nonchalant, chill personalities in my personal life, which I think compliments well with my personality because I keep others on track while they tell me to relax. One of these individuals I’m referring to is my partner. I try to take tips from him when I get overwhelmed with unexpected events. He always tells me, “everything always works out how it’s supposed to,” and it usually does, so remembering this calms my thoughts. I think the first thing to do in any situation where things aren’t going the way you plan is to wind down, take a breather, and step away. You can’t solve anything when you’re not thinking straight.
Technical difficulties are common.. commonly known to happen when you need it to work the most. It’s always good to have a backup plan, especially when it comes to technology. In the event where the work Wi-Fi goes out, I have a hotspot I can use. The work printer jams, we have a backup printer. The Wi-Fi goes out AND I need to print? I save what I need into a flash drive, plug it into the printer. Have a plan a, b, & c ready.
Earlier in the blog I mentioned flat tires. I am notorious for getting them, especially on days I need to get to places the most. On the morning of RIVA Day, my tire completely ripped apart and I didn’t have what I needed to put my spare on. Overwhelmed, I called my partner who was working miles away from me, said he could put the spare on after work. Tire issue would be solved but I still needed to get to Jo Ann’s for RIVA Day, so I called Amber and asked for a ride. Everything worked out, because I asked for help. I am the type of person who likes to solve things on their own but sometimes there are battles you just can’t win on your own. Calling in backup when you need to is important!
When things just don’t go your way, take a minute or two, have a backup plan, and ask for help when all else fails. It’s also OKAY for things to not work out, my last tip is acceptance. It will be a new day, and you can try again.
Written by: Rhea